Let me preface this rant by saying that my parents are amazing people.They have always been there when we needed them and I couldn't ask for better grandparents than the sets my kids have (yes, i love my in-laws too). My parents dedicate a night a week for my older kids and take them along for special bonding time and are always supporting my craziness...until I became - excuse my french - "Organic".
Here is the story...
About six months ago, My husband and I began a journey to become healthier. We were a convenience eating family when we started our journey- We ate out at least 3 times a week and bought the meals that made life easy. After making the commitment to be better parents, we began omitting things from our diet slowly. First to be eliminated was junk food and fast food, next came preservatives and gmo's, and now we are finally 90% organic (I leave 10% for the times we are out with others or at restaurants). I understand that to others...maybe "Organic" has a different meaning- so I want to clarify.
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-No High Fructose Corn Syrup or Zero Calorie Sugar Substitutes - I prefer to go for organic real sugar
-No preservatives - I gave up on traditional prepackaged foods and began making my own or buying the organic label!
-No processed foods - If it is good for you...you shouldn't have to "add" nutrients
- Eliminated chemicals from household by crafting my own cleaners
- Organic meats a few times a week
- Candy, snacks, and treats are all organic packaged or homemade- They still exist
- No fast Food!
- No SUGAR - This equals BAD MOMMY!
- NO FUN - AGAIN EVIL MOMMY!
- NOT enough protein for kids! Really?!? Check out 10 ways to get protein as a vegetarian
- Sickly Children who are deprived
- Mommy can't afford cleaning products!
- Mommy withholds life sustaining meat
- Snacks are lettuce, bread, and water - JAILFOOD!
- I can't afford fast food
GET A CLUE!
Note, I can say all of this because my mother REFUSES to acknowledge that I have a website!
How do they handle our new lifestyle?
Oh boy...let me tell you how they are handling this! They have started hoarding junk and snack foods within their home and FORCE feeding them to my children when they arrive. They also are making "snack" goodie bags LOADED with candy and junk every time that they leave. They buy "extra" cleaning supplies because they are a good deal and drop them off to me. My mother has even commented that my children will "get sick and be ill if they do not get enough SUGAR" - REALLY?!?! When I say no to an item they respond with..."Oh Heather...Let them LIVE" but isn't that what I am trying to do? They have even dropped fast food off at least 2 times a week since we have gone organic.
The effort...proving that there is a misconception about "Organic"..
I thought that I had finally gotten through to them when they made (and ATE!) grilled veggies for my birthday (usually they try to force feed me meat despite the fact that I have been vegetarian for 5 years)! I totally saw my mother eat asparagus..she will NEVER admit to it! They made sweet potato fries and a fruit salad...it was so nice!
Then came the surprise food delivery. They recently made what I will call an "effort" to please us (the parents) while they fed the children's need for junk. I am more than grateful for what they did but it solidified the fact that they think "organic" is something way different than I do. They dropped off 2 jumbo containers of sugary processed drinks (the label said 40% less sugar so they did try), a pound of "sugar free" lunchmeat, processed american cheese, along with bagels and cream cheese (the company boasts preservative free and fresh but the ingredients show otherwise). To them, this was "healthy" food so I am appreciative of the attempt. They also baked a "SUGAR-FREE" cake for my son's birthday...no sugar but LOADED with sweet and low. All night, they made comments about the cake and they couldn't believe that it would taste any good but they did it "since I don't let the kids have sugar"! Is that the only thing that is sinking in?!? That we are eliminating sugar?!?
In reality...My version of "Organic" has made huge improvements in my family!
- We are healthier
- We do more together (baking, cooking, crafts)
- We are saving money
- We STILL eat out - just not as often
- We STILL eat cookies, chips, and cake - just organic!
- Our food has TONS of flavor, is bright, and FRESH
- We are learning that there was NOTING wrong with how my grandmother lived. She made everything from scratch, never opened a "can" of biscuits, and lived on what she had....She didn't drive BUT I guarantee that her first trip would NOT have been to McDonalds!
So HOW do I get this through to my parents--politely?!?!? I am looking to you for advice. I have TRIED making them healthy homemade foods to try--they prefer their McNuggets and have even gone so far as to pack meals for their trips with the kids only to have them returned along with leftovers from the fast food joint!
Any suggestions would be appreciated...from both Organic and NON Organic families....HELP..BEFORE C.P.S. Comes and force feeds my children snickers bars!!!